GREAT SEXPECTATIONS: I feel insecure in my marriage

In our fortnightly column ‘Great Sexpectations’ we answer your questions on sex, faith and intimacy. Drop us an email on womanalive@premier.org.uk and ask us anything. Here, Claire Musters responds to a reader who doesn’t like the attention her husband gives other women.

Dear Woman Alive,

I have been married for five years, and I love my husband. He is kind and thoughtful, but I sometimes feel insecure around other women. We hang out with a few couples from church, and I know that he finds one of the wives really attractive. He always notices pretty women, and I see him looking, trying to make eye-contact with them and this feels disrespectful. I know he would never be unfaithful, although I feel like he is being unfaithful in his mind. I don’t know how to bring it up without making him feel judged, and I don’t want to have to tell him to make me feel secure. Shouldn’t I just be secure in myself?