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How understanding attachment theory helped me to ‘love my neighbour’
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Katie Gauden2026-03-04T05:05:00
Writer Katie Gauden reflects on how our attachment patterns shape the way we see ourselves and others. She explores how growing in security can help us live out Jesus’ call to love more fully.
Experts suggest that around 40% of people have an insecure attachment style, which means a significant number of us carry negative core wounds, thought patterns and coping behaviours that impact how we feel about ourselves and others.
As a life coach with training in Integrated Attachment Theory, I’ve learnt tools for helping people understand their attachment style and grow more secure. As a Christian with lived experience of this process, I can see how becoming secure helps us better “love our neighbours as ourselves”.
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