Are We Dating The Same [Christian] Guy??

Woman Alive deputy editor, Jemimah Wright explores the rise of social media spaces where women can share feedback on the men they date. In other words, ‘spilling the tea’. But where does safety meets forgiveness in digital dating?

In July and early August 2025, two apps stormed the iPhone App Store: Tea, followed swiftly by its gender-flipped counterpart TeaOnHer. Both claim to help users share information on potential dating partners, but their swift rise and troubling flaws spotlight a tense intersection between safety, ethics, and grace.

Launched in 2023 by Sean Cook, Tea Dating Advice is marketed as a women-only safety tool, “like Yelp for men,” where verified women can anonymously post red and green flags, run background checks, and even search criminal databases or reverse image searches to expose catfishing or serious offenses. By mid-2025, it had accrued over 4–6 million users and reached the top charts in the App Store.