GREAT SEXPECTATIONS: I don’t like the idea of sex at all - does that make me asexual?

In our fortnightly column “Great Sexpectations” the Woman Alive panel answer your questions on sex, faith and intimacy. Drop us a confidential email on womanalive@premier.org.uk and ask us anything. Here, we tackle; how to know if you’re asexual.

I’m starting to wonder if I’m asexual. I am flirty with boys and think they are nice to look at, but the idea of kissing any or even having sex (bodily fluids) puts me off! How do I know if I’m asexual or not if I’m not having sex before marriage?

Dear Reader, 

The short answer to this question is: I don’t know. And I hate to disappoint you but without presenting you with a line of people to see whether you might find one of them attractive, I really have no idea whether you are asexual or not. However, it’s an interesting topic to consider, especially in Christian circles where we usually lump people into one of two categories: Waiting to Have Sex or Currently Having Sex.