GREAT SEXPECTATIONS How do I let go and move on from a guy that is not good for me?

In our fortnightly column ‘Great Sexpectations’ we answer your questions on sex, faith and intimacy. Drop us an email on womanalive@premier.org.uk and ask us anything. Here, Marcia Dixon answers someone who wants to get out of a bad relationship.

Dear Woman Alive,

I am a single Christian woman in my early forties. A few years ago I met a much younger guy through the Christian organisation I work for. We had instant chemistry and got on well, even though he is a slightly unusual guy, and is not well liked (so much so that he had to leave the organisation for being inappropriate and not following rules). He does body building, and is very tactile, and we ended up having sex together. Even though he has told me he is not interested in a relationship with me, I can’t let go. I block him for a few days, and then he is like a drug that I go back to. He has so many red flags. Deep down I am believing the lie that I have no other options, I am too old for anyone else, and the fact that I am lonely, means he is still in my life. I realise it is my own brokenness that is meaning I can’t walk away, but what can I do? My friends are fed up with me and think I am crazy not moving on.