Envy can drive a wedge between relationships, here are five signs to look out for

Writer and broadcaster Deanna Fletcher tells of her experience of a toxic friendship and shares five things to look out for in an envious friend.

What are the character traits you find most unappealing in a friend? Does rudeness, gossip, or put downs turn you off a potential relationship? While none of the above are very appealing, envy would be the attitude of the heart I most avoid.

I once had a friend who I had known for years and, while none of our friends are perfect people, I saw in her a kind-hearted and hard-working woman. Eventually it became clear she was spreading falsehoods about my character and generally telling untruths that painted me in a very negative light within our church and its leadership. Somehow, according to her, I was born under a "lucky star" and she was more deserving of the recognition I often received. Uncovering a hateful, "green-eyed" spirit in someone I thought I knew was surprising to say the least, and not easily forgotten.