GREAT SEXPECTATIONS: How many dates does it take to know if there’s real potential?

In our fortnightly column ‘Great Sexpectations’ we answer your questions on sex, faith and intimacy. Drop us an email on womanalive@premier.org.uk and ask us anything. Here, we answer someone who wants to know if she should keep dating a guy she was set up with

Dear Woman Alive,

I was set up with a guy by some friends. He is my friend’s husband’s only Christian friend, and I am her only Christian friend, so they thought we would connect! When I first met him I wasn’t attracted to him physically, but I said yes to going out for a drink. We have quite a lot in common, and I could tell he is a really good guy. We went out for a meal after that, and then he came to church with me, and we had a drink after. I am not sure whether he is the one for me still, and I wondered how many dates I should go on to know if there is real potential? I worry that I am still seeing him because there are no other nice Christian guys around. But at the same time, I think I would be jealous if he started dating someone else, because he is really kind, and we do have a good time together. What do you advise? When do you know if it is a ‘just friends’ type of situation?