Christian women shouldn’t look to worldly influencers for marital wisdom

As a Christian wife and mother who has been married to one man for 13 years now, I could give you some advice on how I got here. Warning: It’s not the stuff of Real Housewives, and doesn’t include lying, manipulation or scheming to attain unearned finances.

Perhaps I’m simply boring? Four children ago I was a young, romantic single; an unbeliever, with a propensity to idealize. I believed the Cinderella dream that I would find my Prince Charming. There were maybe as many pitfalls in my over-romanticized outlook as there are in today’s proclivities of the relational succubus.

parasitic is exactly the word that comes to mind when I look at popular social media gurus like SheraSeven

For me, parasitic is exactly the word that comes to mind when I look at popular social media gurus like SheraSeven (a social media influencer with 20 billion views on Tik Tok). Her modus operandi? Teaching women over the age of 25 to snag a rich man; making the modern-day ‘horrors’ of self-sufficiency fade away completely, like gold dust (her catch phrase is ‘sprinkle sprinkle’).

I’m not being too harsh here. If there’s one thing I’ve been thinking about lately, it’s how the world views relationships versus how God (our primary example of all relationships) does. As Christians, we should have the understanding that God so loved that He gave. Relationships unto God are about giving and sacrifice. How can I consider others better than myself? How can I pray for my enemy? SheraSeven’s chief view of relationships, however, seems to be, how one can best serve her flesh? How can I find a job that will make me rich while doing as little as possible? How can I find a partner who will keep me comfortable? How can I use another human in order to satisfy my sexual desire? How does this child I’m pregnant with benefit the grand scheme of my life picture?

Will you lay down your life in service or put on your Manolo’s and walk all over him?

When I read advice given by these influencers like provoking him to jealousy, holding out on sex (for manipulation, not purity’s sake) and hiding your real feelings so as not to repel him with who you really are, I think of my own sons; just young, handsome boys now. Will they one day come across one of these wealth-hounding financial dominatrixes? It’s why I’m teaching them with every fiber of my being to find a woman who foremost loves and obeys the Lord Jesus.

And what of you? As a modern Christian woman, if you’re watching these videos, who do you have a heart to serve? Are you about loving the Lord your God and seeking the advancement of His Kingdom? Are you looking at your fellow men as image bearers, no matter their net worth? Will you lay down your life in service or put on your Manolo’s and walk all over him? When heaven and earth pass away, will the fruit of your heart’s desires have lead Jesus to say “well done”?

In recent months she’s posted videos referencing how to influence your man by spiking his beverage with your menstrual blood

These social media influencers are capitalizing off the fear that you’ll be alone, unhappy and unsuccessful in life without riches and a partner. They’re assured that what the Bible calls “weak women burdened with sins” will swipe through clips of worldly wisdom to relieve the burdens of their hungry hearts. Is it any surprise that the hugely popular SheraSeven has more recently reinvented herself as the occult flavoured ‘Ashera Goddess’(?). In recent months she’s posted videos referencing how to influence your man by spiking his beverage with your menstrual blood and showing off her supernatural methods of control over her husband to her children.

 As women of God and of the Word we need to be wise to the devil’s schemes, asking ourselves, who are we really trusting? Christ set us free indeed to do the good work of seeing others set free for His Kingdom, not to submit our fellow man to a life of bondage, indebted to the lustful desires of an immoral woman. Don’t let her be you.

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